My First Break, Light Shines Yonder

[Smothy]

I always thought my control was for the good of the family. Efficiency, saving money, working out logistics etc.

Now I see it's a fear of failure and rejection. I think this is why this D has impacted on me so much. I fear letting go of the control. I had so much anger inside which I am working on.

Pyrite, it's us wanting to be perfect for our spouses that manifests itself in control. We are too scared to take of the mask that we are hiding behind. Now we are working on ourselves and taking off the mask to look in the mirror it is scary stuff!

I too think I have come a long way for myself but not at a stage where I have truly let go of attachement to my H.