I have a lot of soul searching to do. I never really left " home", although I really wanted to. I stayed close to be with my family, my mom, brother and my children. My kids are adults, but still act like teenagers. I want to help them, but don't want to do everything for them. I just can't anymore! Do I work towards being able to move away and be with him? Can I trust him not to leave me again if my illness progresses? Those are things to think about in the future I guess. For now I need to concentrate on me and when we do get together to have a good time.
Hi Diana,
It seems like you may have answered your own question.
I have 3 siblings who acted like teenagers well into their adult years (not me, of course! LOL) My Mom and Dad, in my opinion, did way too much for them. As you say, they are adults and you just can't help them anymore. If you still love your H, yes, concentrate on yourself so you can work towards being with him.
Of course always try to be there for your children, but you need to set limits. It is for their good as well as your own.
Oh, one last thing, I feel you have a healthy attitude about when you do get together with your H. Very good.
I have a feeling you are going to make it!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
