I don't know the answer to this. I think my self-judgement is a problem, though for a good chunk of my life I thought this was good and what drove me to do great things.
Hello u-turn,
I was the exact same way! Between therapy, the loving people on this forum and time, I have realized that self-judgement is digging me into a deeper hole if I ever want a chance at DB'ing my M.
It took time, but I think I have gotten away from this habit.
As Sandi always says regarding WWs, "It is his inner strength that women respect." If you keep on with the self-judgement (I know, it's not easy) how are you going to ever come across as a man standing tall and firm? That's what I'm working towards.
I wish you well.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
