Ripken - LRT with Wayward Wife and Divorce Filing

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My W filed first. I discovered the A after she filed. She assured me it was an EA. It was a PA. Talks of marriage, OM being a good step father. Her finally getting a job after years of not working and being a STHM.

You can't really do much at this point. You have to focus on yourself because focusing on her will just push her away.

I've made plenty of mistakes. What works is GAL, move on, drop the rope, let her go, etc.

It [censored] and it hurts. Eventually it will hurt less. You'll realize it and it's like a light bulb just turned on in a dark room. She may come along and turn off the light, give you some hope of R. Do your best to keep the road paved if you want. Eventually, you really won't care if the road is paved (or so I hear).

I'm not there yet. I have finally realized that I can't do anything to change her or make her see she's making a mistake. Maybe she's not. She may doing what she needs to be happy. I can only learn from this, become a better person, a better father. I can be someone that it's hung up on someone else.

Keep focused on DB and DR. Sandi's rules and posts are worth reading a thousand times. The vets here are awesome. Many of the new comers are awesome. Keep reading and learning.