I wanted to chime in from my own perspective as a former MLCer.
Originally Posted By: mirage
2) Feels there is something wrong, but can't quite put their finger on it. Will show a little clarity ocassionally but still basically lost.
Yep...that was me. Just had the niggling feeling that something was off, but couldn't or wasn't able to put a finger on as to why something was wrong with me.
Job hit the bull's eye here:
They fear rejection and being judged by others.
Big time!!! B-I-G time. I hated having 1,200 eyeballs pointed in my direction dissecting every movement I made. This was one of the reasons why I nearly did not go on a family vacation with Ms. Wonka and her family at Martha's Vineyard during the height of my own MLC.
When the MLCer speaks to you, they're trying to figure out WTH happened to them. Sometimes they'll be all over the map with their thought process as they try to sort themselves out at the coming out of the tunnel stage. Can't really blame them at all for their reference point is hazy at best.
It is during this stage that it is extremely critical that you be very patient and gentle with the MLCer coming out of the tunnel. You don't want to spook them with judgments and why's or "how could you's"!
It takes a LONG, LONG time before they're able to see things clearly and come to terms with what happened. For me, I think it took me about two years to fully understand my own MLC and accept that part of my journey. It was a part of my life story. Doesn't mean that there's right or wrong to the story.
