Z, have you read any stuff by Brene Brown, or seen her two TED talks? She sprang to mind when reading your post above. I have found her stuff really helpful...
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
