1) Totally believes what they are doing without much concern to anything else in their way.
2) Feels there is something wrong, but can't quite put their finger on it. Will show a little clarity ocassionally but still basically lost.
3) Knows their is something wrong and searches for the tools. Will find some tools that help themselves but not the internal strength to steer them out of the tunnel.
4) Knows something is wrong, acquires the tools and does the hard work to get to the other side.
Lets use simple math then 1/4 make it, thats 25%. I think that number is still high for MLC but it gives us a clue about how hard this journey is.
I understand how hard it is to access your own situation. and yes you are dealing with an ex, her family and then the kids and negative influence. I think it just human nature for family to stand behind whatever they do and so it seems they perpetuate her journey in a negative way just by the indifference.
The only thing I can add about MLC and this was just in my own case. I wanted to make it out. I didn't want to be this way for the rest of my life. It felt like a do or die situation to me. I don't know if all MLC'ers feel that way or not.
I've read your threads. You have a firm grasp of your situation. You are a model of what we are supposed to be in life. I know at times that can seem hollow. Sometimes we have to hang on to that one grain of sand in life that is leading us in the right direction. I hear your struggle, all I can say is that I think you are moving in the right direction.
