Can I revisit this - "responsible for making happy" theme?
I think we all have a responsibility not to cause unhappiness for our spouses. By this I mean we know of examples where partners have been critical, angry, negative and so on. And I think these things cause unhappiness in the recipient.
So, I think there's a responsibility not to cause unhappiness for others in such ways. But I think the primary responsibility for happiness lies within ourselves. But it would be difficult to be happy with an angry, critical, negative partner if you see what I mean.
However, if you have a partner who is generally pretty nice, and 'good enough' and you are unhappy within yourself, that may well be more yours to fix."
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THE LAST PARAGRAPH IS MY W, SHE IS TOTALY UNHAPPY WITHIN HERSELF, this came out at joint counseling, she never has been from a very early age, she is highly intelligent, abused by family member when young, abusive 1st serious relationship when teenager and Annorexia and Bulimea, all seem to have lead to a crohnic insecurity about who she is.....
I believe this is main cause, NOT ME. But yes I can admit that I did not handle things well as I tried to show love through Direction, My thoughts and my direction imposed on her and how she should be. I didnt know I was doing this until pointed out. Problem with being a fixer.
