LT, Yes, they do begin to question their decisions. In some cases, if the LBS can sit quietly and just listen, you will hear the MLCer think things over out loud. They don't even realize that they are doing it. I don't think at this time it's fear of what they've done, but rather just trying to rationalize in their fuzzy minds why they've done certain things. I do think that fear does come into play when they begin to reach out to the people that they distanced themselves from at the beginning of the crisis. They fear rejection and being judged by others. They fear that the LBS will constantly remind them of what they've done, thus many MLCers will not return for that reason. It's a lot of work for both the MLCer and the LBS and some can't move beyond the destruction and, of course, trust issues.
Yes, it is a very common stage in the process. BTW, they questions themselves throughout the process...but what they do w/the answers...well, they attempt to shut off the thinking process by continuing on w/the replay activities or finding things to keep their minds focused on that particular thing. Being alone or at night is the worse time for them because that is when the thought processes go into over drive for them.
Continue to sit quietly, listen to what she has to say and offer no advice unless she asks for it.
You've been doing a great job! Continue moving forward.
