WAS asked for divorce today.

[aNewGuy]

I keep re-readng all of this each day, and taking a little bit more with me on the way each time.

Reconciliation IS my goal, and I don't ACTUALLY KNOW if she is / was having an actual affair, though most would look at my situation and think that an EA has been occurring for some time. I trusted implicitly that divorce was not something she would ever consider, and I also trusted her that she would not ever leave me for another. So I was stuck in a rut of thinking she was the one who needed to make changes. Today, I realize that I am the one who needed changing. I realize this while not denying that she also played a role in all of this, some *might* say her role was more critical than mine while others *might not*. I can only hope that God is working on her right now just like He's working on me. He is certainly capable of fixing even this situation.

Still not sure about the divorce and how I am going to proceed so far as responding to the case goes, but I still have a few days to figure that out.

My wife seems to be sending me more positive things in text. She asked when she could come over to go through things, which is the first time she has taken any responsibility for that. Obviously I am going to let her have anything that's hers!

I gave her a date when I will be available, she responded, and I asked her how her father is doing (he recently had surgery). She told me he is recovering and doing OK and I told her I am glad to hear it and she responded "Me too!!" and I left it at that.

More prayer and more time is needed. Thank you for your response Bob723, I want to convey how much it means to see someone else who aligns with 25yearsmic and Karma12, like I do, on the things I have presented.