Ive been travelling for work and only had phone, so been difficult replying. Yes been reading the links, has opened my eyes. I am a nice guy but I am not walked over (i thought). My W is someone who never says stands up for her side of a disscussion (in relationship), if anyone does not agree with her she shuts down and takes all that resentment to heart, and keeps it there. She never lets that go.
I want the marriage to much as you say and she knows that, gives her great power. I have started to change, few 180s but V difficult initialy not to slip back and or look aggresive (another trait she has now added to my list
Some 180s, not replying to texts, trying to walk away when she is baiting me, when she comes to me all needy asking for reassurance (do i look good in this...) I just say "what do you think" Told W spare room for her, No bed just matress on floor, i didnt help. Im not cooking, apart from when its just me and the children. going out with friends and back to Athletics club.
I have seen her anger come out from the above.so it must be doing something.
I was told the A was just friends...blah blah,,, and wanted to believe. second time around, im growing some balls. Its 10 days since I found the A was still going on, but im trying and reading and trying not to come across as controlling. (which most of my 180s she adds to the list of "Stuarts issues")
Was thinking of phone coaching, when I am back, but international number seems not correct.
While I am away what else can I do, any tips. do not text at all, but then Im sure she will get Kids to Skype or something...
