MCS really nailed it with this comment: --I took what she said to heart, too much. If you think about it, do you think that they say to their friends "Stuart was an awesome, caring, considerate guy; but I just got sick of him and had an affair." Of course not, they need to justify their actions in their head and to do it; they need to make you the villain in their head.
Although my W did not leave because of OM, she makes me the villian and lives now with her Mom who of course validates of all my W's revisionist history. MCS is right on about your W needing to justify her actions. That is what my W does, too.
As I wrote earlier tonight, hang in there Stuart...you can do this but it will take time and patience.
Do not let her walk all over you.
Regards,
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
