Listen to Sandi! She knows her stuff and her insight into the ww is incredible and helps me understand more in my situation. I'm definitely no expert but I want to encourage u to keep with it and things will get better for u with time. This forum and group is absolutely the best resource!
Sandi, if u have time could u review help with my thread? I'd love ur feedback on a ww that has already filed, continuing the affair and we still live together, making gal and lrt harder . . .
Hi Stuart,
I completely agree with Ripken. Please, if you want to have a chance to DB, I highly recommend you follow Sandi's advice and take the time to answer her insightful questions.
My sitch is different than yours. My WAW did so 6 months ago and filed for divroce the next day. She has MS and gets extremely depressed. She claims she started feeling smothered by me. Long story short, as an example, I did get really concerned if she would want to drive after being in a terrible car crash in July 2013. I could see how that get annoying after time, but I've also had my therapist and women on this board say they wish their H were so concerned about their well-being. I think Sandi would say I suffer from "Nice Guy" syndrome.
My point is: I posted on the wrong forum at first and didn't know about all the great threads. I knew about Sandi's 37 rules, had read DR and DB but still was not detaching emotionally. I'm not sure if my wife will ever respect me again. But I've been getting great advice from many vets and newcomers on the board.
I don't think I've ever heard directly from Sandi--I'd love to sometime. Sandi, I know, there's only so much time in a day. LOL
Hang in there Stuart...you can do this but it will take time and patience.
Take care.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
