Do it for your kids. Do it for you. Don't do it for her, especially if she is going to use guilt and manipulation to lash out at you. You don't need or deserve that.
It seems like she is testing you and doesn't like your responses because it shows she is no longer in control, so she is throwing an immature temper tantrum because things are not going quite as smoothly as she planned.
Don't worry about any of that. Do what you do for the right reasons, and her issues are her issues.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
