I'm doing good thanks, apart from the leg (nerve injury rather than muscular and physio reckons 4 to 6 weeks - that will teach me)
So things to update on, well work is still good and there are a few more things developing on my elaborate plan. Its a long term plan but every step is needed, even the ones that fail.
I've done a few more bits round the house and did some decorating in D3s (who will very soon be D4) bedroom. She will be so excited when she sees it.
my XW has texted me or emailed me a couple of times, always logistical or child related and some of it was because I had to ask her to swap some childcare days, but some of it has been slightly less cold and she has volunteered some information about what shes up to. It seems like our interaction is normalising a little bit in our seperate lives which has to be better for the kids.
D3 is being a little more vocal about wanting mummy and daddy to live together
On the GAL front well ive been out a few times with old friends and the local meetup group i've joined so thats been good fun. I might have overdone it a little bit and so need to make sure i get adequate sleep. Im a big fan of sleep generally.
And on the dating front i'd love to say that its all amazing but theres not really much to report except for fact that both my XW and her PF came up as suggested matches for me, which mildly amused me not least because I know that PF is most definitely not my type. I will also say that a surprising proportion of the women in my area seem remarkably jaded.
So thats my update.
V, i just want to tackle your question about the conversation with my dad, who has been very been supportive in my situation.
A lot of my parenting has been about deliberately not doing what my parents did because I dont think i had particularly good childhood. It wasnt bad, and we were taken care of but we certainly made to 'know our place' and this was the main thrust of my dads criticism the other day - that i'm too indulgent of D3 and that she doesnt 'know her place'.
For the most part i ignored him, I certainly learnt a long time ago that there is no point arguing, and i felt ok with that - more so than in previous because i'm more accepting of who my dad is and more able to see the positives in him.
I did find that for the next couple of days though I was a bit stricter with so obviously it did have some affect on me. This was the main topic of discussion at my most recent IC appointment.
Figuring out my relationship with my dad has been something that has been of tremendous value to me and has been real proof to me that i can change the dynamic of a relationship without talking to the other person about it or them having even the slightest willingness to change.
Anyway thats me for now. Take care all
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
