I know that flooding reaction well and its a major pain - something im trying to figure out because i can know all kinds of stuff about reactions and behaviours (and NVC) but its difficult to apply any of it when flooded. As an aside I love the way your acedemic nature has you referencing your sources.
Do you still want to send a letter then? what do you think it might say?
I know we only know you from what you post but I can't say you've ever come accross as even slightly narcissitic.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress