Mighty, I am from Brooklyn. We mean what we say, we say what we mean. Its just easier that way.
Being truthful is something extremely important to me. It always was..it is even more so since all of this happened.
So, please trust me when I say that I write from my heart, but, I dont say things just to be nice. That serves no one well.
I saw things in you from the start. And I want you to know that I completely understand what you mean when you say you have a hard time getting compliments from someone. I was like that my whole life. The truth is that I never felt I deserved them.
I realized, through a lot of hard work, that its ok to accept them. I would like to think that for the most part, people are sincere. I am not saying that there arent people who blow smoke up ones..you know. But mostly, people mean it.
It was a process to get there. And I still have trouble from time to time. It isnt easy to accept compliments for me. It is out of my comfort zone.
As far as your xh, I would venture to say that someone in crisis, in a relationshp built on lies and deceit, who has lost his relationship with his children and the person who had his back for years, isnt happy. How could he be? But, that isnt your problem, right?
I know its lonely coming home to a quiet house. Trust me, I do. And I so get the walls being up. Did I tell you that I mastered in walls? Got a PHD in it. Still my achilles heal, to be honest. It's how I survived my difficult life. I grew to like my walls. They were pretty colors. .
This journey helped me to take them down..sometimes a brick at a time, sometimes whole rows. If I am honest, they arent down all the way. It is my go to..its what I know. But I am getting there... and you will, too.
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