Tooting Marvellous!

[jim0987]

Evening Toots. So I catch up on your thread and there's pole dancing!!!!

The UK system for divorce is a bit odd in the whole two years thing but equally the advice I had was that ultimately the fault stuff doesnt make much difference. It may be that your H has decided he wants a D but he doesnt want to say Toots has behaved unreasinably - he would then be stuck until the 2 year point (although obviously he could always say something to you)

If im reading it right it seems like your ok with giving your H more time in terms of the M and not giving up completely on that but that your patience for the lopsided financial arrangements is wearing thin.

He asked could we sell the house. I said yes, as long as it's part of a full financial S.
He said he didn't think we should fully separate finances unless as part of D process.
I said D isn't what I want, but I won't stand in his way if this is his choice.
Then all stops, and he needs to think - since mid March..

Just a suggestion but could you force the financial issue again. with something along the lines of

'Dear H,

I'd like us to start working on a financial settlement so that I can get more settled where I am and buy a place of my own.

Could you let me know how you would like us to take this forward.

Thanks

Toots'


Its not talking about the divorce specifically and its much more in line with you saying you dont want a divorce (if you really wanted you could even say that again but i'm not sure thats needed). You never know it may prompt something one way or the other and if he still doesnt respond then you can take another step to be more active, and I suspect another non response will make you feel more comfortable with another step.

Aside from all that jazz you sound great as ever and Well done on getting an interview (although you knew you would) it will go brilliantly im sure