My W is having an affair. When we got together I had some money she had none, I had a much larger income than her. I had no issues with one bank account but she did, So I set up a Direct payment so she could do what she wanted. We had nice holidays and a nice life Roll foreword 7 years 2 children, house build....and in with a therapist, she used this as one of the main reasons why she strayed. She says she has no control of her own life, this included the money and the A has obviously given her this. She thinks. So she now has a new high paying job of 2 weeks. So I stop the direct transfer so she does not have to feel owing to me.

Tonight she goes off, why have I stopped the payment......... She says this is another decision I can take with out consulting her.... More control

What should I have done.

I am at a loss as to how to reply or not.


Edit - thread merged with original thread

Last edited by Cadet; 04/25/15 07:30 PM. Reason: merge