T, consult with a lawyer on your own (they usually do free consultations) just to get an understanding of what the situation would be for yourself (It doesn't mean you're moving forward with anything, you're just getting information). Don't say anything to your H about it and don't worry about what he does right now. My H has said when he left he didn't want to involve lawyers either, but here were are six months later and he hasn't done a thing to make a move either way in the process. So get what information you need so you're prepared for the worst and in the meantime, try to go dark as much as possible (I know this is hard when you have kids). Make it clear you're moving on with your life either way.
Also, try not to read too much into interactions. My H left in November, then stayed over on Christmas Day and watched a movie and cuddled on the couch with me. A week later he acted like it never happened. He also does little things when he's here watching the kids, like make my bed and unload the dishwasher, etc. It all literally means nothing, I've learned.
Hang in there. This is tough and confusing, I know!
Me: 38 H: 43 Kids: 2,4 T10 M6 BD: 1/14 11/14: H moves out
