When is kindness enough?

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My wife showed up at the bedroom door and said: "You can sleep in the bed. There is no problem."
I was not going to sleep anywhere else, so I did not understand why she said that. Did she think I was going to sleep in the floor once more?
Anyway, why does she say it's OK for me to sleep in the bed if we don't touch each other?

There is a bit of logic... she's flipping it around so she's giving you permission to sleep in your bed. So it's "as if" she's still in control of the situation. This will come up with some of your other 180s too. So be prepared with the suggested reactions.

My wife has tried doing some of the same types of "giving me permission".

Very interesting point of view!!!
I would have never considered this. I am such a nice guy!