I don't think there's a hard and fast rule. I know people who were dating within a few months of divorce who then married the loves of their lives and enjoyed marriages of 30+ years. I'm not going to miss out on that because of an arbitrary time line. Nor am I going to rush into anything. I'm just musing on what I think I want.
He's been gone for a year. It's been 21 months since I learned about the affair. 4 years that I know of since he was faithful. I think I've put in time on healing and changing. This isn't like some sitches where you go from BD to fully divorced in three months. If the right person comes along and I find myself attracted I don't see any reason why I should have to wait.
My plate is pretty full right now and I'm not seeking anything out. But I'd like to have an idea of what is important to me so I recognize it if it shows up in front of me.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
