Do you remember how awful your addiction to alcohol was? Do you remember how tough to be without your drug of choice?
That is NUTS!
That is how WW is about her drug of choice. In her case it is a behavioural drug rather than a chemical one. A little understanding but as with your alcohol issue, then complete withdrawal, abstaining is needed. WW has her own 12 steps to do.
My sincerest heartfelt admiration for your achievement in managing your alcohol addiction.
V
As always V, you have a great way of looking at things!
I believe my understanding of addiction and finally learning to detach is what is helping me with my sitch. It is also helping me with older D and helping her deal with it. Older D and W used to text each other alot during the day. I think that is why D is hurting. She said she is tired of her mom only contacting her if she needs something.
I do believe in miracles. I believe it will take a big one for WW to ever get to the point of starting her 12 steps. Admitting she has a problem would mean hell froze over!!
I have really taken Wonka advice on not feeding the job issue. I do not discuss it with WW. If she talks about her schedule I listen. I believe WW is somewhat confused about my actions lately. I have taken myself OUT of her way. I don't start drama. I do my own thing. I can see the resentment in her lately because of this. She has been almost trying to push my buttons. When I don't react, I think it baffles her.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
Hiya, bud! Sorry to have been MIA here for a while.
Originally Posted By: Joe46
I have really taken Wonka advice on not feeding the job issue. I do not discuss it with WW. If she talks about her schedule I listen. I believe WW is somewhat confused about my actions lately. I have taken myself OUT of her way. I don't start drama. I do my own thing. I can see the resentment in her lately because of this. She has been almost trying to push my buttons. When I don't react, I think it baffles her.
^^^ That is the Golden Ticket! Heck, I'll treat you with a choice gobstopper for your latest effort to suck the oxygen out of W's job issue. Keep it up and the fire will eventually peter out to embers ...and finally ashes.
^^^ That is the Golden Ticket! Heck, I'll treat you with a choice gobstopper for your latest effort to suck the oxygen out of W's job issue. Keep it up and the fire will eventually peter out to embers ...and finally ashes.
Hi Joe,
Wonka is right on and so are you . . . it does baffle her.
Keep up the good work!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Hiya, bud! Sorry to have been MIA here for a while.
Originally Posted By: Joe46
I have really taken Wonka advice on not feeding the job issue. I do not discuss it with WW. If she talks about her schedule I listen. I believe WW is somewhat confused about my actions lately. I have taken myself OUT of her way. I don't start drama. I do my own thing. I can see the resentment in her lately because of this. She has been almost trying to push my buttons. When I don't react, I think it baffles her.
^^^ That is the Golden Ticket! Heck, I'll treat you with a choice gobstopper for your latest effort to suck the oxygen out of W's job issue. Keep it up and the fire will eventually peter out to embers ...and finally ashes.
Only if it is a everlasting showstopper!!!
Thanks for checking in wonka.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
W and I are eating dinner and she says she needs to ask me a question. She asks me if I think older S that is staying with us is doing drugs.( He has a new job and the kid he works with has been known to smoke a little). She said she has noticed him come home a few times and his eyes were glazed over. When she asked him about it, he said it was because he was working in the sun all day. I told her, that I wasn't sure but I had noticed that also. I told her that if I find out he is or if I suspect it, he will be staying somewhere else. Boundary of mine. He has a choice, just say no or stay somewhere else.
So she starts in on how she hates it when someone tries to deny something when everything they are doing makes them look guilty. She said " I wasn't born yesterday, if it looks like he is guilty, he probably is". While she was saying this, she kinda stopped half way through, like it just hit her like a ton of bricks that I had said the same thing to her so many times the past 9 months. All I said was " I know what you mean". And than I practiced my STFU!!
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
Joe, I will say I am just inspired by what you've done and are doing. Yes, those moments are priceless. That's how I feel when I practice pool and then make the shot I was practicing in competition. It's like, "I nailed it!!!" It just feels good to see your improved skills equate to victory (of yourself in the moment). Great job!!!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
