Newcomer dealing with WAH in Midlife Crisis, EA/probly PA

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Thanks for commenting Lorelai. It is nice to know that we are not alone cause it's is terribly lonely situation, especially when family & friends are all living their normal, happy lives while we are in this hell.

uRworthy...you have so much wisdom on this subject. I appreciate your feedback & guidance.

Yesterday on our way home from the dog park I decided to ask H what he's thinking in terms of our business. The business is in his name but we run it together. He's always talking about us & the future of the business but on the same hand he says he's done & wants to mediate a divorce. It's 2 opposing actions to me. He said he really wasn't sure how we would deal with the business & how we would split it (cause we have been running it like partners). He gave a couple of possible scenarios. He said he was glad I asked & he would like to discuss it further. I'm not sure if that was a good idea to ask that Question. I'm not ready to move on at all.

Does anyone know how long you can stay separated. H does not want to involve lawyers he wants to mediate & keep it civil so we don't end up hating each other. I still want to go to marriage counseling, lay all our issues out & work thru them. I really believe in my heart & soul that despite everything we can come out of this with a new, stronger & better marriage. It will take some major effort for me to trust him again but I'm willing to try.

Can he file D without involving a lawyer to start the mediation process? I hope not. I plan on waiting this out & stand for our marriage.