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[Sotto]

Thanks guys. Yes Edz - I guess I'm just mulling over, and appreciate that no sudden moves is a good plan. Who knows what things may look like this time next month?

RD, I guess my motivations are more financial/practical than wanting to date. I just don't feel much desire to date right now. I think I'll be happier just being single for a while and enjoying new friendships.

Gan, we're in a similar place in lots of ways (apart from the A in my case.) I agree that our H's may not file. In the UK, my H would have to file on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour until July 2016, so that may put him off - or he may just be avoidant/wallowing/still medicating or distracting with OW or other dates - IDK.

I just feel we've reached an impasse on finance/housing:

He asked could we sell the house. I said yes, as long as it's part of a full financial S.
He said he didn't think we should fully separate finances unless as part of D process.
I said D isn't what I want, but I won't stand in his way if this is his choice.
Then all stops, and he needs to think - since mid March..

Now, I'm trundling along financially, and can surely cope (if I get this job) for a good while. But I'm not dealing with the fact that he continues to use our MH & city flat whilst I have to pay rent. All as a result of his infidelity. That's galling, but I could do it. I just don't want us to be in an unhealthy situation of avoiding dealing with stuff that should be sorted - like having a largely unused main home etc..