Well just spent an hour and a half with the W. Wasn't bad at all. Some of the things that were discussed. * We both worry about our youngest not having much in the way of friends and/or social life. * We both accept the boys are adults and we cannot control them. * She doesn't get any texts or phone calls from the sons either, and at one stage she felt like stopping calling or texting them. * Her family have been nasty to her. Including if she didn't come back to the city, then they will no longer visit her. That didn't happen as they have visited her since. * How much the country job service affected us both. I also let her know some more of the things I had to put up with during my country service with work issues. Some of the things I got from the meeting: * She has a nice new car * She comes down to the city more often that I thought. * She doesn't come across as being really happy in life. * She doesn't like what her sister says and does about and to her. * She lost a lot of friends also since the separation. What didn't get discussed: * Either of our partners. * Future * No talk about divorce, separation and/or future of us. So basically I came away from the meeting still comfortable and happy. One little thing did get to me, was how during lunch, we chatted just as happily as we did prior to BD. It just makes you wonder what happened.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
