I also have to stop worrying about what the W is doing and continue to work on myself. Looked at phone records tonight and saw that she is now texting a different male co worker 20 times or more a day and having long phone conversations with him. I know she is finally getting the attention she long deserved but it still hurts like hell!
It will hurt but its what shes believes she wants/needs in her life right now and you need to step back and focus on yourself. Snooping in the phone records wont help you. If you see bad thing (lots of communication with another man) you get hurt. If you see good things(no communication with another man) you gain expectations, which cause issues for you later. Lose-lose situation.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
