Control sited as to why an affair

[sandi2]

I'm going to take a big leap here and say you are one those "nice guy" types who will try to do everything except what he needs to do with a wayward wife.

Take a look at what you said, and tell me if it even makes sense.

As she no longer treats me like a human being and that she is not married then it should be. 50/50.

So, she treats you like cr@p and she's acting like a teenager. And what do you do about? Instead of addressing the true problem, you want to talk about her paying half of the expenses.

Do you even know what the problem is? As a former WW myself, I would say she has about zero respect for you as a man.....and she has been simply tolerating sex with you, and she basically wears the pants in the family, while you are the one who is more dependent on the MR. You don't do anything that might set her off and you'd rather leave the decisions up to her just so you don't have endure her anger. Am I hitting close to the anything familiar yet? Is there any resemblance of man you were before M?

Let me tell you something. She is no longer the girl you married. She has become an entirely different breed.....known as the wayward wife. Learn about it and how to address it. Look back at Cadet's post and see a thread about For Newcomer LBH's with a WW. I hope you'll read it. Another one is called Sandi's Rules, which has guidelines that may help you get started. All the threads on Cadets first post can be read while you're waiting on the book.

Sorry for your misery. Your M can be saved. You need to get all this information ASAP.

I hope you'll post often and stick with us. We would like to help. It is a wonderful board for support and advice.