Ok here we go with my situation, I got the ilybinilwyabout a month ago after a heated argument that was my fault to begin with 1st I was shocked than I did what any husband would do beg, ask to work it out, etc..
After I settled down a bit u immediately started planning my escape, writing down bills I was going to keep, kid schedule etc. after a few days of still begging and pleading she said she needed time to work on her happiness and I needed the same.
There is no OM involved this I am certain of.

I suggested that I was going to move out because I was not going to live in a house with someone that didn't feel the same way I did. Problem is I moved into the rent house next door for the kids to be close and it was easier in all of us.

It wasent until recently that I even heard of the 180s in my rage of begging and pleading to change all I got was "I've given you my all the past 11 years and now it's over you want to change?" I started doing the 180s last week and it's hard because I just live next door so in retrospect now I see that when I was begging for a 2nd chance what I was really saying was " I can't be happy unless you give me my way."
I've come to the conclusion that I am no longer going to dwell in my self pity and I can either walk around as my pride is a ballon that anyone can pop or its a steel ball in my pocket that no one can break.
Im at a crossroads where I desperately want my wife back but it's been about a month and I'm still getting the same behavior from her.

I admit I made a fool of myself the 1st 2 weeks after the bomb was dropped.
How in the world do I keep myself from having a WWS.
Seems that I'm always giving in to her and I'll do about 75% of the 180s than I blow it again by asking to put this behind us.
I can take any critic you give me.
The biggest fear I have is losing my wife and she starts seeing other people right next door to me.
Today she finally told me she was breaking through a tm and she was so angry I believed that to be a good thing that she was starting to realize her actions.
I believe she may have seen the significant changes that I've made and she doesent want to admit that she wants to work things out.
I just can't knock down that stupid wall.
We've been together 11 years married 8, two daughters 8,10.

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