Today W started a talk about the M. She told me again, that she wants the D. I told her politely, that this is not in my interests. This family and the 20 yrs together are important to me and that I am not at a point, where I would throw all this away. She said, that it would be a "good example" for the kids, to show them, that you can always start something new and you don not have to stay in a "terrible" situation. The kids would suffer, because of the atmosphere at home...but I know, that they do not.
Then she said, that she does not love me...and I told her, that love can develop out of respect and shared life experiences. Then she said it would not be the only point. She would be "afraid" of living together with me, because I would be unpredictable. When I asked her about a specific situation, she could not name one, but said, that she would not have to justify herself. And this is odd. If she had specific points, she would have mentioned them, to reinforce her decision. Btw., she values me as a person...but bla bla bla.
She will probably consult a lawyer, to get an idea, what to do next.
This conversation made me sad and confused.
Any ideas from your side?
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
