New to this. Need support. Separated.

[Georgiabelle]

Pure,

I did go back and read this thread. I did want to point one thing out to you. Please don't feel like you need to compete with the OW. You can't nor should you try. And please don't put yourself down because yiu are over 40 (many of us here are). There will ALWAYS be someone younger, fitter, more successful, smarter, wealthier, etc in life.

I have battled self image issues pretty much from the time I was 6 yrs old (I was waaaaaaay ahead of my time). My h originally was with someone 25. I can honestly say without question I had better hair and teeth, but it has nothing to do with anyone. The OW he met on snapchat and got serious with 2 weeks after moving out is a college student. I'm sure she has better abs than I do, but I'm pretty sure I get just as much or more male attention than she does. And I'm not bragging nor could I ever be confused with the Sports Illustrated swimsuit cover model. However, I don't want to compete or be in college. There is no competition. I loved my h very much. Was I a great wife? I think I did the best I could at the time and I could have shown much more affection to my h.

Sorry to hijack but I frequently hear women say "I can't compete with a 25 yr old!" Why in h-e double hockey sticks would you want to? I've already been a college student. Loved it. Done with that. Focus on your good qualities and things you can do to make yourself better...for you !