Bets - Yes this has just happened in the last week. They have been separated since early 2012 and their divorce was final a year later. She first shared with him that she was seeing me approximately a year ago and he was nothing but supportive up until now. He himself has had a girlfriend for quite awhile, but I have the sneaky suspicion that his relationship with her has either soured or ended. She moved up to New York a few months ago and they have been trying to do the long distance thing.
Wii - Yes I agree in that I think some of the "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to want you" mentality is at play here as well.
Overall this isn't a huge issue for me. My concern is more for the pressure (or guilt) he may put on my fiancé's kids (and the stress it would put on her) - as he has already done a couple of things to try and manipulate the situation with them.
