Should I respond with, You want to know why I didn't tell you I took our son to work? Because I thought that's what you want, for us to be able to do what we want with our childern without discussing.
Do I leave it at that or continue into how it doesn't feel good? Do I respond to her text, or make her talk face to face which she's been having a problem doing?
NO!!
You have already responded.
Why do you need to keep responding, what is she saying?