[BrightFuture]

Hi Bea, thanks for the insights. I think MLCers have hard time connecting with people in a healthy way. My H was always very social, but he maintained the boundaries. Well, until he was not in love with me anymore, LOL.

Going back to what Job posted… If H is re-living some of his past, then I totally understand why he is connecting with his older brother. This was exactly the scenario when we got married. He was listening to his older brother and following his example. He was not so much fond of his other brother and said that his brother was just sleeping around kind of guy.

Over the years, he got closer with his other brother and more distant with the oldest one. The second brother was more fun, doing all kinds of things. And the older brother was a solid family man. I guess it became a bot boring for H…

I think he’s gone back to the old pattern recently. Trying to connect to the family life. Interesting…

Had a text and e-mail exchange with H. Yesterday I e-mailed him about the tax refund and company insurance that I got the bill for. I calculated the portion of refund and transferred money to his account. I also asked him if he wanted me to pay the insurance for the company or mail him the bill. In the text I informed him that I transferred the money and that the details are in the e-mail.

He responded to the text, thanking me for the info the money and telling me that he is back to the state where he works “for the season (too early)”. Haha, he kind of complained to me that it is “too early” for him to be back to work. Because… His life was supposed to be great with a few month of work and the rest of the year – partying and enjoying life at the vacation home. I suppose is still not working out this way…

He also asked me to send any “important” mail to his address in that state. I kind of ignored the “important” part… How am I supposed to know which mail is important to him and which is not… I think he means junk mail that I’ve been sending to him with the rest, LOL. Not my concern…

Then today, I got an e-mail from him , telling me that he has a night job, so he will probably not get up early tomorrow, so he will send the company file (which I also asked for) later tomorrow. Then he asks me to pay the company insurance bill “please”… Then he asks for an end of year statement for the condo mortgage. Oh, boy… I have a feeling that he is re-evaluating whether he can continue to pay the condo… Tough times…

Should I tell him to contact the crazy woman to see if she can handle all of that?