It is so hard to know...I feel I am super-sensitive in this area and wanted to put this situation out there to gauge whether I am overreacting or not.
Hey, rH, I would have the same feelings and thoughts. My H used to tell me that is not a big deal with him having communication, drinks, etc. with single women when I was not there. He brought our massage therapist and her GF to stay with him at the condo once, when I was not there. It raised some eyebrows and I was not happy about it. But he said that I had the issues, being jealous and clingy. I thought that it WAS my issue… Until I told this to some women and the reaction was that they would never allow their husbands to do that. It was just plain disrespectful to me.
So, I don’t think you are wrong about your feelings. I don’t understand what it is with these guys (my H and your H), don’t they get it… Yes, you are right, it was probably him thinking about himself only, and not thinking about other people’s feelings… People who are the closest to him, you and your kids.
The only one thing that I see could rehabilitate him in this situation is that he invited her to the house, and not to some bar, away from everybody. I think it was his way showing that he has nothing to hide. Nevertheless, I still think it is stupid and disrespectful. Hopefully he got the message when you told him that you didn’t like this one bit.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
