It occurs to me that starting your own business is entrepreneurial. Hidden somewhere turn is quiet confidence. So yes this is really worth exploring. Would love to know about that decision because it demands attention and appears out of pattern or your comfort zone!

What would it take to stop judging yourself? Where does it come from? When did you first notice it?

So let's look at "small talk", because small talk is just gobbledygook and in many ways irrelevant. Since almost everyone's personal favourite discussion is themselves then the most important response is talking about them! People love talking about themselves (well most of them) so a quiet shy type who asks questions of others will be in great demand. Remarks such as "that's interesting", "what happened next" and "tell me more" are small talk enough. I think I would like you to know that who you are in that context is in the middle of that bell shaped curve, not an outlier. Neither hiding in the broom cupboard nor life and soul. Sounds ok to me.

I really think if you practice that plus a nod and "huh huh" to start will work. Eventually you can comment if asked "interesting, I need to think more about that". Gradually more thoughts will flow, it's ok you know to be a thinker and consider your responses. it's perfectly fine to be quiet and reserved, we Brits do it all the time. Perhaps you could act English.

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Last edited by Vanilla; 04/24/15 01:05 AM.
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