Another WW/WAW, Need Guidance

[JAS84]

I realize that I am not receiving replies to my thread, partly because I am not being reciprocal, and partially because my methods are all over the place.

I also understand that my situation is VERY dire, and that I am quite possibly causing more damage by what I have done, and am doing.

Because of the situation, I cannot properly start DB-ing until W is out of the house. I am having too much trouble making sure S4 is going to be OK, and keeping the household running to deal with W and our issues. In this whole thing, the role has been reversed: She is the one who is not doing anything, "winging it" with S4 and assuming he will be fine, and just not giving a damn.

I get that she is checked out, and that it is my home to run now. I will do it, and I will do well.

Regardless, I would still appreciate feedback and criticism, if anyone would spare a few seconds for me.