I have a dear friend whose husband is very interested in politics. They aren't financially in a position where he can run himself at the moment but they both know it's a long-term goal of his and they have established specific steps to getting him to that point. She has anxieties about it too but they are close and they play to one another's strengths. She didn't "inspire" him to make those goals or to work towards them. He set them himself, discussed it with her extensively, and they can to some agreements about what she would and could contribute. It was very mutual.
Your H feels the lack in himself and is shifting it on to you because that's easier than solving that lack himself. Be awesome for yourself. That's pretty inspiring.
I think that the lack of any sort of discussion or planning was our problem. He'd want things. Id get anxious about it and ask questions to try and map out a plan of action to get us there. He took it as criticsm and discouragement. Nothing ever happened. We got so stuck. I guess fear is a common factor with me. And I am so afraid of change. That makes me clingy. That makes me an anchor. Not only to him, but to myself. I'm so afraid to move and I feel so alone. Being on my own is probably the best thing for me to overcome that fear.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
