No. U guys missed that part in the previous thread. My wife filed for divorce Monday and told me Tuesday and then admitted to the affair. Based on that info wonka now what do u suggest?
Just because W has filed for D doesn't necessarily mean that you stake out a white flag on the hill and just do what you think is supposed to happen next. In your mind, you think that it means that you must cooperate to "separate" bills, clothes, etc. Doesn't work that way.
Stop.
If you've found a L, then tell him the facts:
1) Your W is in an active A with OM 2) You don't want a D 3) You want him (L) to slow things down and try to drag out this process as long as possible 4) Let your L handle any papers and whatnot from W's L
We have seen frequently that many WASes file for D, but don't follow through. Oftentimes it gets pushed back weeks and months. Then as the LBS uses the gift of time to work on themselves, do genuine 180s, GALing, and detaching...then viola! The WAS is drawn to the very interesting and fun LBS....the D is all forgotten.
Right now, you and W are operating on high emotions and being very reactive.
Step back. Calm down yourself.
Again, do nothing yourself. That is what we are ALL suggesting here.
