trying to figure her mind out WILL drive you nuts. i am struggling incredibly with this, it causes me to miss time from work, lose focus on virtually all aspects of my life...why, because i don't know what is going to happen in my life...i don't know my future. i have no idea is she is reconnecting with me or planning on moving on. i was doing well and started feel more comfortable around her (i.e., growing more attached instead of trying to pull away).
We need to be strong and try to focus all of that energy on ourselves. we need to make sure that we are working on us. If she leaves, great we cannot make her stay. we cannot force her to love us. What can we do. we can be loving, caring individuals, fun, confident, independant. Someone that is attractive. She will notice, but don't let that stop your progress...PLEASE!!!!!!!!!
We need to drop the damned rope and be able to accept that we don't have any control over her. Ultimately you control you. We have to STOP and severe her ability to control what we do and how we think. this is healthy behavior when we do not allow others to control our actions. We are not dogs. We are not children. We are full grown men who should be able to function healtily on our own.
<Zephyr stops, writes this down so he can read this to himself over and over again>
