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Re: Kramer's Journey Kramer #2560230 04/23/15 03:31 PM
Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 13,555 Likes: 90 NY C Cadet Member
Cadet Member C Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 13,555 Likes: 90 NY	Originally Posted By: Kramer I suspect that this is a common question, but isn't detaching quite similar to ignoring? Have you read this thread? Detachment thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2538414#Post2538414 I will also say that detachment is best done in layers, like an onion peeling back one layer at a time. What you do as a newbie is different than two or three years in. So for YOU right now, the answer might be Yes, later it might be different. Me-70, D37,S36

Re: Kramer's Journey Cadet #2560250 04/23/15 04:10 PM
Joined: Dec 2014 Posts: 250 K Kramer OP Member
OP Kramer Member K Joined: Dec 2014 Posts: 250	Another question: I was thinking about putting together a photo book of my wife and her kids over the years, and having it sent to her house from the company. I was going to make it from her kids and leave my name off of it. Is this a good or bad idea? Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15

Re: Kramer's Journey Kramer #2560258 04/23/15 04:36 PM
Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 7,319 W Wonka Member
Wonka Member W Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 7,319	Kramer, What is the occasion? Details....please.

Re: Kramer's Journey Wonka #2560279 04/23/15 05:04 PM
Joined: Dec 2014 Posts: 250 K Kramer OP Member
OP Kramer Member K Joined: Dec 2014 Posts: 250	Originally Posted By: Wonka Kramer, What is the occasion? Details....please. Oops, sorry. That would be for Mothers Day. Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15

Re: Kramer's Journey Kramer #2560280 04/23/15 05:05 PM
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Wonka Member W Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 7,319	How old are the kids? I do not see their ages under your signature line.

Re: Kramer's Journey Wonka #2560285 04/23/15 05:14 PM
Joined: Dec 2014 Posts: 250 K Kramer OP Member
OP Kramer Member K Joined: Dec 2014 Posts: 250	17, 18, 19, 19, and 24 Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15

Re: Kramer's Journey Kramer #2560286 04/23/15 05:17 PM
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Wonka Member W Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 7,319	Kramer, I think in that case it is not a good idea because it came from you. You can ask your kids what they would like to do for Mom on Mother's Day and you may make a suggestion of the photo book to them.

Re: Kramer's Journey Wonka #2560335 04/23/15 07:27 PM
Joined: Dec 2014 Posts: 250 K Kramer OP Member
OP Kramer Member K Joined: Dec 2014 Posts: 250	I just want to clarify that these are her bio children. My kids are older and live out of state. I wanted to do the photo book because I know that her children will not do anything. In years past, it's always been me that bought the gifts for Mothers Day and birthdays, and let the kids give them to her. I wasn't going to put my name anywhere, but you're right...she would know that it was from me. This is so hard. I want to remain strong and detached, but also want to make her feel good on Mothers Day. Of course, I'm sure her boyfriend's small children will do something nice for her, and anything I do will look like pursuit and competition. Maybe I'll just get her mom a gift certificate for brunch and tell her to take her daughter out. Or maybe I should just act as if it's another day, and let my wife enjoy the repercussions of her actions. Sigh... Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15

Re: Kramer's Journey Kramer #2560351 04/23/15 07:59 PM
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Cadet Member C Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 13,555 Likes: 90 NY	Originally Posted By: Kramer I know that her children will not do anything. That is really between her children and her. Not for you to fix that problem. Let her mend her relationship with her children. They are adults they can do what they want. Me-70, D37,S36

Re: Kramer's Journey Cadet #2560367 04/23/15 08:48 PM
Joined: Oct 2014 Posts: 1,532 Likes: 1 M Mozza Member
Mozza Member M Joined: Oct 2014 Posts: 1,532 Likes: 1	I hope you will do nothing. M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09 "You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.

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