Matt I wanted to let you know I have been reading and ache for your D. When our kids are little we hold them in our arms and promise them we will keep them from harm. We never would have imagined at that point that we would be protecting them from the other parent.

I too look back and regret some choices I made. I cannot believe I stayed so long trying to save my marriage. I can't believe I allowed s to stay in house with h drinking and raging. I am embarrassed by my weakness.

We can't dwell on or punish ourselves for choices we made. I believe that the choices you made were based on the information you had at tbe time and what you thought was best.

NOW you have new information. You move forward being there for d 100%. Being available to her therapists. Being available to her teachers and anyone else she comes into contact with.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15