My First Break, Light Shines Yonder

[Pyrite]

Very uplifting - Thanks Zeus - making the world a better place, (fixing) one (f***ed up) LBS at a time.

I have held on to that romantic image since soon after BD. Specifically as I have said before I want to look back on this in 20 years time as the period which gave us the best M.

So many superficially "defined" Ms abound. Some of my closest friends are in them. My W and I used to wonder/laugh at them. Now look who's laughing. I Will check out Parker's thread.

1. and 2. - definitely. 3.- is beyond my scope, in all interpretations. I think we could have the above - but as MrBond would/should chastise me "It is not about what YOU think". Which is correct. SO maybe this is what I am saying, 3. is not a legitimate reason. 3. is about HER. and should be irrelevant to self-focussed DBing, BUT it is almost at the core in so far as the "SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE" enticement on the home page. Although this is not so straightforward a call. My point to NoleGirl was that this becomes incredibly blurred when there are kids involved as well, for whom D'ed parents is a life long issue they are subjected to by the two people who I believe should never stop trying to make it work.

Mediation session soon - I am getting nervous. How much am I going to yield for the sake of my girls and/or me wanting custody of my girls? I am in a very different place than I was in the last session. Then I was the one who caved BUT I fiercely objected. Now I am no longer interested in fighting or punishing her. I just want to stay away from a disinterested 3rd party making an arbitrary decision (which 85% of the time is in favour of the Mother [factual statistic from family court]). Following which I will likely cave anyway to regain some ground in an external agreement with the STBX.

It seems to be a very common wiring. Mine is also convoluted with other issues (which no doubt it is in everyone case) which I need to think about more before posting.