In my own case, I invited the W to occasional dinners and events. And for the ones that she did attend, I made them as enjoyable as possible. Not just for her but for the kids and myself. I walked in with no expectations (something you will have to learn if you do this) and just did it for the heck of it.
What it did to her was that it gave her a glimpse again of what family life and life with the new and improved me would be like (this is when she would still see the OM). Over time, she started lowering her walls and using my newly developed communications skills, I slowly re-established trust and intimacy with her until we were healed.
Every situation is different. You're just going to have to choose which works best in yours.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
