18 years of marriage, 2 kids wife drops bomb that she is done, doesn't want to do this anymore, wants a divorce out the blue. She said she has felt rejected physically and emotionally for 8 months. I had a man problem that made me shut down because I didn't know what was going on with me and I didn't know how to deal with it.
During that time we did still fool around and do stuff. This is 14 weeks ago. Since than I found out I have low testosterone, which I fixed. Started going to therapy by myself see refuses to go.
She on the other hand stopped wearing wedding ring, sleep in spare bed room(told her she wants out she can move out), wont touch me, not even with a finger. Told me rejection has turned in resentment. Won't talk to me or anyone else about it. Keep saying she needs space and time. Has said few time she wants a divorce. She has also started going to yoga 4 nights a week and going out on Saturday nights. This is new for her.
For 18 years I thought we had a really good marriage, now I have no idea what's going to happen. I try and give space by not texting or emailing, but after a day or so she'll contact me and I bombard her with text after that, few time falling apart begging her to work on us, take me back. Trying hard to give space, but after 14 weeks, will she ever want to try and work thing out? Is she having an affair and keeping me around incase thing don't work out there?
She claims there no one but I assume they always do. This all came about fast. I believe the neglect is BS. I work 50 hrs a week plus I'm Mr. mom. I make dinner, take the kids to karate, soccer, and school functions. She on the other hand works 70-80 hrs a week comes home to dinner and the kids tucked into bed. Sure I forgot some other details, there's a lot going on in my head
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