I don;'t view it as fighting, but as protecting. She brought this one with her 2 Affairs right? That was an act of war against you and your children. Protect yourself and them.
She is acting in a selfish and irresponsible manner, you are protecting yourself within the rule of law. That is not vindictive not punative, you have every right to protect yourself and family.
I woudn't worry about it. This process could go on for years if you wanted to stall it out.
Hire the best lawyer you can, have them go slowly, and see what happens. Yes, your wife will be made as heck, but the final end goal is what you are set on, not the short sighted near goal.
