W won't stop EA with OM!

[Train]

Rubi, have you gone out with the guys lately? Seems like this might be a great time for you to get out of the house for an evening or even a full night. Be mysterious. Look and smell like a million dollars, but don't offer your W any information about where you're going or who you'll be with. Just smile at her and tell her just before leaving that you're hanging with friends and will probably be back late (or the following day).

It may seem backwards to detach when it seems your W has taken a step toward you. But keep in mind that a lot of times WAWs will "temp check" you to see if you're still there, willing to be her Plan B. Maybe OM "broke up" with her for a night. Or maybe she truly is thinking things over. That's not yours to know right now.

I liken this part of DBing to fishing: Your W has nibbled on the line. But until she's on the hook and swimming with it, you need to keep bobbing the bait and even sometimes pulling it out of the water to check it.

You don't want to make yourself completely available to her. She needs to face the reality of what she stands to lose. And going out with the guys, feeling and looking your best, is SUCH a confidence-booster to boot.