Bets I think you are spot on in your self evaluation on the issue of looking for a significant other. You have way too much stuff you are sifting through and dealing with to add dating on to your plate, especially when you yourself don't feel ready for that. I think you have to want to and have a DESIRE to seek out a significant other and until you are in that place you are doing the smart thing by staying on the sidewalk and instead processing through all of the serious stuff life has dealt you over the last year.
