Hi Alpha, I'm pleased you're feeling better than previously. But I would urge some caution with some of your post above - and also your post on Onguard's thread. You are still pretty early on in your sitch - not yet three months - have two kids together - and are still (presumably?) hoping to move forward with your family all together if possible.

I think there are a couple of important differences between sitches like Onguard's and your own. One significant difference is time scale. And I truly do think it takes a fair amount of time to work through the utter devastation and find happiness again within yourself. The second difference is dating.

I'm not a fan of dating early on in sitches - but we all make different choices and that's fair enough. I think the important thing is not to feel you've truly detached, are ready to walk away and have 'come through it' - when what may have happened is some female interest has given you a boost. I always worry that early dating is a way of trying to circumvent the journey - take that little door from kitchens to kids rooms in Ikea - and miss out important stuff on the way - introspection and growth.

I don't want to be a party pooper - but that is what came to mind when I read your posts today. Hope the feedback is useful...

T :-)

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