Bulldog... Your posts are always about a day or more late. I just went back and saw your post. You explained that you doubt the P/D dynamic in my situation, as you believe she has her own agenda (I am well aware that early on you fully believed in some sort of A). So what then?
I thought GB's post was much more suited to your sitch than mine. She's been very explicit about how it would work in your case. I'm not sure what you mean by "What then?" You need to detach, regardless of the reasons why she left you. Not detaching leads to pain and pursuit, two things that play against you. Also, there's no trick to make her come back. The ball is in her court. All we can do is to stop the damage we've done. People who pursue, who get upset, who are difficult will just make R and moving on more difficult. It's a great Buddhist exercise, one that I'm not familiar with as an emotional person, but it's the moment where I (we) have to learn the lesson.
Any interest in Models? Again, I think it would do you good to read about attraction and, later if you want to date, the rest of the book might become useful.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
